Practical Practice Management

When The Unexpected Happens

When things come up unexpectedly that cause our plans to change it can cause an unpleasant response to say the least.  Depending on the circumstance that caused the change that response could range from an inconvenience to something frightening.

No matter what the reason is it will take acceptance of it, in order to be able to move forward.  That does not mean that it will be easy nor happen quickly. Many times it takes a while to work through the process.

My Aunt Dollie has a great way of looking at situations like this that I have been trying to apply in my life which really helps with the process of acceptance.  When plans change she will say “Apparently this was not meant to be.” She will not push to try to make it happen, she will look forward with anticipation as to what will happen next.  So simple, yet so hard for most of us to do.

This has been a great lesson for me.  It helps so much to know that I cannot always expect things to happen how I want them to, and when they do not, I can look forward to see what will happen.

I was sharing this recently with a friend and they said that I give up too easy on things that I want.  I do not give up on my goals and dreams, but I do know now that they may all come about in a way that I have never ever thought of before.

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Gaining A New Perspective

Aloha!

As a consultant I get the wonderful opportunity to speak at conferences in Maui.  I remember arriving at one of our hotels a few years back, where we took a walk by the seashore. Looking at the scene before me, I could not believe how it made me physically feel. (See picture above)

As I watched the ocean flow in and out, the sound of the waves gently crashing on the rocks caused calmness within me. It was wonderful to just stand there and take the beauty and wonder of the view in.

Far too often we forget to stop and take in the sights of our surroundings, even for a moment. When was the last time you really looked at a flower or a meadow, even a skyscraper or old building in all of their architectural wonder?

When we take time to notice our surroundings and let their beauty and wonderment fill our mind it causes us to have great appreciation for today and where we are.  We gain a new perspective.

I encourage you to take the time today to appreciate something you see and not take it for granted.

Happy Monday!

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Finding Balance

“Life is a balanced system of learning and evolution. Whether pleasure or pain; every situation in your life serves a purpose. It is up to us to recognize what that purpose could be.”

~ Steve Maraboli

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Do You Only Work Hard When You Have To?

An interesting thing happened at the office the other day.  One of our staff members was going to be leaving on vacation the next day and had a lot of work to do before going.  We have been busy at work and a little short handed lately and I knew that each of us had a few of those piles to get through.

Being under the pressure of leaving and having a lot of unfinished work, this staff member really got focused on what needed to be done and finished most of what had been sitting on his desk for quite awhile.

The interesting thing was at the end of the day he said to me, “Wow, I cannot believe I did so much work today to catch up.”  I agreed that he had really put forth the effort to catch up on somethings.

Then on the way home the thought occurred to me that we shouldn’t just work extra hard because we are going to be gone for a few days, we should put forth that type of effort each day at work.  That is what our employer is paying us for. We need to give focused time and energy to our work every day, when we do it is amazing what we accomplish.

Having a work plan each day with top priorities and tasks to complete on a list, in order, will help keep you focused.

Make sure you give your employer a days work for a days pay.

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Conflict With Co-workers

We each are created in our own unique way; we are as different as puppies and kittens. In the workplace it can be difficult getting different personalities to blend smoothly.

It would be great if we could always work with people whom we got along well, but as we know, that for the most part is an unrealistic expectation.

Even if you do get along most of the time, there are times and situations that we will rub each other the wrong way and one small rub can lead to a big problem.

If you are working with someone who is difficult for you to get along with you need to be very careful in how you handle the situation as it may backfire on you.  You must first examine yourself to make sure it is not you that is causing the problem.

Many times when dealing with a co-worker that is difficult to work with, we will complain to our superiors about them, looking for them to resolve the problem for us.  If that does not solve the problem we complain to other co-workers hoping to gain support so our superiors would then do something.

We need to realize if we are complaining all of the time about this difficult co-worker, “we may begin to look like the “difficult co-worker” who is unable to get along with others. This ultimately could damage your career.

If you are having problems with a co-worker and you have tried to work it out with them, have examined yourself and you know it is not you, then go to your superiors and let them know of the situation.

Tell them what you have done to try to resolve the problem (well documented) and ask them for insight and help.

No complaining, you need advice on how you might be able to handle the situation better so that you can do your expected job without this interference.  This is a professional approach, one that your superiors can respect.

You are eliciting help with the situation, not complaining about it.  Work relationships are not always easy, but you don’t want to hurt your career by not being able to handle them professionally.

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When You Cannot Reach Your Goals

Being optimistic as we develop and set out to achieve our goals, increases our chance of achieving them.  When the going gets tough a little positive self-talk can keep you moving toward your goal.

I often refer to the story of “The Little Engine that Could” remembering how this little engine took on such a big job, that other engines who were mightier said that he would not be able to do the job, and how he kept going to succeed at completing his task by telling himself over and over “I think, I can.”

“The Little Engine that Could” is an illustrated children’s book that was first published in the United States in 1930 by Platt and Munk.  The story is used to teach children the value of optimism and hard work.  Based on a 2007 online poll, the National Education Association named the book on its “Teachers’ Top 100 Books for Children.”

A early short synopsis of the story is below:

A little railroad engine was employed about a station yard for such work as it was built for, pulling a few cars on and off the switches. One morning it was waiting for the next call when a long train of freight-cars asked a large engine in the roundhouse to take it over the hill. “I can’t; that is too much a pull for me,” said the great engine built for hard work. Then the train asked another engine, and another, only to hear excuses and be refused. In desperation, the train asked the little switch engine to draw it up the grade and down on the other side. “I think I can,” puffed the little locomotive, and put itself in front of the great heavy train. As it went on the little engine kept bravely puffing faster and faster, “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.”

As it neared the top of the grade, which had so discouraged the larger engines, it went more slowly. However, it still kept saying, “I—think—I—can, I—think—I—can.” It reached the top by drawing on bravery and then went on down the grade, congratulating itself by saying, “I thought I could, I thought I could.”

If you do not think you can you will not, if you do and pursue until the end you will be enriched with the knowledge that there are no limits to what you can achieve.

Below the link takes you to a great article on strategies for achieving your goals.

How To Achieve Your Goals 

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Monday Thought…. Do you remember?

The influence of others on our life is amazingly, amazing and can be suffocating.  I have met people who have told me that they are not doing what their hearts desire is, but they are doing what is expected of them by someone else.

I remember a friend of my son’s who wanted to pursue a different major at a college that was not the one his parents attended.  It was a horrible situation for all parties involved.

The young man was strong in his convictions and pursued his desire, but the effect on the relationship with his parents was devastating.

It is important that we be true to our self, pursue our dreams, because in the end we are alone to face the reality of whether we are satisfied or not with our life….

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