“Respect cannot be bought or learned, it must be earned”

711112_fruit_basketWe all know that people are as different as, well, bananas and oranges.  In the workplace more likely than not you are going to be working with many different types of fruit, or personality types.

It would be great if we always could work with people who our personalities blended well with, but as we have all experienced this is not always the case.

If you are working with someone who is difficult for you to get along with you need to be very careful in how you handle the situation as it may backfire on you.

Before you make any complaints you need examine yourself to make sure that it is not you that is causing the “rub” between the two of you.  All to often when people have a co-worker that is difficult to work with they start to complain to their superiors about them, looking, and hoping, that they will resolve the problem for them. .

If that doesn’t work then they start to complain to other co-workers about them hoping to gain support, hoping possibly that the supervisor would then do something.  What we need to realize is if we are complaining all of the time about this difficult co-worker, that we may begin to look like the “difficult co-worker”,  that is unable to get along with others and this could damage your career.

If you are having problems with difficult co-workers and you have tried to work it out with them, and have examined yourself and you know it is not you, then go to your superiors and let them know of the situation.  Tell them what you have done to try to resolve the problem and ask them for insight and help.

Do not go to them complaining.  Ask for advice on how you might be able to handle the situation better.  This is a more professional approach, one that your superiors can respect you for.  You are eliciting help with the situation, not complaining about it.

Work relationships are not always easy, but you don’t want to hurt your career by not being able to handle them professionally.  Don’t allow a “people problem” to taint your work reputation and potentially be the cause of others losing respect for you by the way you poorly handled the situation.

Others are looking at you and the way that you handle problems with coworkers, gain their respect, don’t lose it.


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