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I am sure we would all agree that people are as different as oranges and apples.  In most workplaces you will find many different personality types that may or may not blend well.

It would be wonderful if everyone at work could get along well, but as we have all experienced this is not always the case.

If you are working with someone who is difficult for you to get along with be very careful how you handle the situation with him or her as it may backfire on you.

If there is a certain coworker that “really bothers you” do not complain too quickly or at least before you do a complete examination of the situation that is causing the issues.

Before issuing a complaint you need examine yourself to make sure that it is not you that is causing the “rub” between you and your co-worker.  Very often when people have a co-worker that is difficult to work with they start to complain to their superiors about them, hoping, that they will resolve the problem for them. .

If that doesn’t work then they start to complain to other co-workers about their problem hoping to gain support, possibly that the supervisor would then do something.

What needs to be realized is if we are complaining all of the time about a difficult co-worker, that we may begin to look like the “difficult co-worker our self”, meaning that we are unable to get along with others and this could be career damaging.

When having problems with difficult co-workers that you have tried to work it out with them, and have examined yourself and know it is not you, then go to your superiors to let them know of the situation.  Tell them what you have done to try to resolve the problem and ask for insight and guidance.

Do not go to them complaining.  Ask for advice on how you might be able to handle the situation better.  This is a professional approach, one that your superiors will respect you for.  You are eliciting help with the situation, not complaining about it.

Work relationships are not always easy, but you don’t want to hurt your career by not being able to handle them professionally.  Do not allow a “people problem” to taint your work reputation and potentially be the cause of others losing respect for you by handling the situation poorly.

Be an example of how to handle difficult situations with your coworkers, you will gain their respect instead of possibly losing it.